I'm not dictating anything. You don't want notifications? Great! You can disable them. You want notifications only between these sets of timespans? No problem! Oh you want blacklist/whitelist certain groups/people? Can do!

The receiver has full agency of when they receive notifications and of whom. In fact a person NOT sending a message and keeping it stored later is, in fact, taking away agency of the receiver. The sender assumes he knows better then the receivers.

>I'm not dictating anything. You don't want notifications? Great! You can disable them. You want notifications only between these sets of timespans? No problem! Oh you want blacklist/whitelist certain groups/people? Can do!

But you're still sending the message, regardless of if they want it or not, and even if obviously they might not have done those things, not know how to do those things, or simply not want to have to do those things, but still not want to have to get some message at night.

Sorry, but you're intruding with your late nightn message. And that's irrelevant to what they have or haven't set on their phone.

>In fact a person NOT sending a message and keeping it stored later is, in fact, taking away agency of the receiver. The sender assumes he knows better then the receivers.

It's not about agency, it's about courtesy.

my phone allows me to set who i get notifications from. (my settings are to silence everyone except immediate family)

if they don't know how, the first time they bring up this issue, i'll help them change their settings.

yes, there are always corner cases, and there may be a situation where it is necessary to avoid sending messages at certain times. but this can be communicated. what bothers me is people getting upset if they receive a message at the wrong time as if it was the senders fault.