At the risk of being overly simplistic, why not go have kids then? If your partner is unable, you can adopts or have a surrogate. If your partner is uninterested, you can find a new partner.
I don’t have kids and don’t plan to. I know my partner is more interested, but not interested enough to actually have kids. I know we love each other deeply, but if they wanted a family and I absolutely didn’t, then love would be to help then find that, even if it wasn’t with me. For however incredibly painful that would be, I just can’t imagine preventing someone I love from something so foundational.
And ya know, it’s the 21st century so monogamy is not the only socially acceptable available arrangement for people who love each other.
You really need to start talking to your partner about this. It’s dishonest to withhold it.
I don’t have kids and don’t plan to. I know my partner is more interested, but not interested enough to actually have kids. I know we love each other deeply, but if they wanted a family and I absolutely didn’t, then love would be to help then find that, even if it wasn’t with me. For however incredibly painful that would be, I just can’t imagine preventing someone I love from something so foundational.
And ya know, it’s the 21st century so monogamy is not the only socially acceptable available arrangement for people who love each other.
You really need to start talking to your partner about this. It’s dishonest to withhold it.