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I think it's really creepy that you don't see anything wrong with a child in BDSM gear. And alcohol.

That's actually sadism.

I dunno, maybe you just don't get it. Do you know what sadism is?

On the other hand, I've yet to hear a convincing argument as to why it shouldn't bother me other than "oh just get over it it's not that bad", which isn't working with me, since I have no petty bourgeois sensibilities, and I know what I'm doing when it comes to art.

Why should I be cool with sadism?


I thought the ad was creepy and weird, but you're lying here. There was no " child in BDSM gear" in the photo. Why lie to make a point? That's creepy and weird, too


I made a mistake but everyone knows what picture I'm talking about. It's not a lie.

So it was a child carrying a doll that had BDSM gear. But that's funny cus if the girl was the one in BDSM gear, that would make it wrong? Is that the line?


I'm curious why, if you believed you made a mistake, you didn't edit your comment at the time to avoid propagating misinformation (as the 2 hour edit window was still open when you made this response acknowledging it as a mistake)?

I personally am not familiar with this photo and don't really want to see it, so yes, your comment could have mislead me.


There's no ulterior motive. I just messed up. I fixed it as soon as I got called out on it without objection and I left it there so people can see what the issue was.

If you are going to participate in this discussion, you need to keep up. You're attributing malice where there is none. That means you have to see the picture.

I'm not saying you can't say anything, just that I'm going to dismiss you out of hand.


The child was next to some glasses of wine. Why does that make you clutch pearls exactly?

Have you seen Big Daddy? The Adam Sandler film? Is that also on this level? Feels like the same thing. Child actors in an adult piece of media with sexual and violent and otherwise adult themes.


The thing is I just don't care how you feel. You haven't explained how the kid can consent to this photo shoot or why it isn't sexual abuse.

I want to know if you think it's ok if the kid wears BDSM gear. Yes? No?


Why do you want to know that when you've acknowledged in a parallel thread that that wasn't what happened? It's hard for me to read this any other way than a deflection so that you can discuss a different set of events, which didn't happen, where you feel your arguments would fair better.

Given that we're already talking about a hot-button issue which is the subject of conspiracy theories, that seems dangerous.


Yeah, you're trying to catch me on a typo, but it's not gonna work cus I already acknowledged it.

I do know I hit a nerve with that particular scenario. I got all I wanted. Ok, so let's just move on. Let's get to the fun stuff.

So the line stopped at her wearing the BDSM gear. Why? Why not cross that line? Why is it ok for the bear to wear BDSM gear and for her not to?


I misunderstood. I thought we were having a discussion, but I can see you're looking to deliver a monologue. I'll leave you to it.


Lol. All I did was respond to the Adam Sandler move with my own. I'm just trying to speed this up and get to the good stuff already.

Apparently, if it was the kid wearing the BDSM gear, it wouldn't feel like the same thing. It would feel wrong.

Of course, if you, or anyone reading this feels different, speak out.


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I got into Flash while studying animation at UT but then Steve Jobs banned it from the iPhone, so I switched to Ruby on Rails when v3 came out. I started freelancing projects with Ember.js and Express for a while, but switched to React when that got big.

I’m comfortable full-stack and I’m best with JavaScript, but I’ve worked with Python, Golang, Ruby, Java, etc

Did 4 years at a couple big companies as a tech lead but started freelancing again about a year into the pandemic when layoffs hit.

I was coasting on savings but you know how the situation is rn so my semi-retirement is over :(

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It’s a book written for a world that doesn’t exist anymore

It’s not worth the struggle if you have the movie


“Food writing today recognizes our connections to food as legitimate, and recognizes food for all the varying things it can be…”

So before 2022, no one liked to eat and it was all ham sandwiches

Cringe


I remember asparagus jokes in the first volume, and beef-in-aspic in (I think) the second. But I do not remember that much about food. Actually, I probably remember more about food from Homer than from Proust.


Yes, OK, madeleines. I think that A.J. Liebling said something to the effect, If he could do that with madeleines, just think what he could do with cassoulet. (My copy of Between Meals: An Appetite for Paris was recently damaged in a flood, and has not yet been replaced.)


Ya but, what's wrong with ham sandwiches?


No onions or peppers!


Wait, do you want onions on a ham sandwich? Peppers I could fuck with.


That’s what I think it’s funny.

“Why is it so hard to believe the media has an agenda?”

Why wouldn’t it? See Agenda Setting Theory.

All mass media can be propaganda. It’s always a political tool.

Yeah, they were farming for clicks, but to get you to read, not to make money.

You’re not supposed to notice that it’s propaganda tho. Otherwise it loses its power. That’s why you’re getting that gut feeling.

So there is something to be said about a decline in the quality of American propaganda

I think the trick is that when ppl think “propaganda” they think external, to/from another country. But internal propaganda is taboo

The word has a bad connotation for historical reasons but it’s actually a neutral term.


As for politics, you can assume everything is propaganda.


They’re trying to change public opinion to avoid the charge or buy time to plan.


Oh yeah it happens all the time.

But if you notice, keep quiet, or you’ll get labeled a lunatic.


Right, but not all journalists are created equal. The kind of reporting you talk about requires someone special


“It was very frustrating to me that the correct answer to most prioritization and architecture projects was obvious”

Lost me there. People that think they know everything are the easiest to trick.

“People are complex, and they get energy in complex ways. Some managers get energy from writing some software”

No. We get energy from food.

“folks will accomplish more if you let them do some energizing work, even if that work itself isn’t very important.”

Cited himself. No proof of claim.

“ fun project is prototyping a throwaway service in a new programming language, then hmm, maybe that’s fine. But if you put it into production, then your energizing detour is going to be net negative on energy generation after other teams are pulled in to figure out how to support it. Honestly, don’t worry about the other rules, just make sure to follow this one.“

I think you should fix your deploy pipeline. Prototypes don’t belong in production. Now, if that started a prototype and team decided it had to go to prod, then it’s a good decision. They had their reasons

——

I gave up. It’s hard to take it seriously. Obviously the self is always more important.

Anyway, the main issue is you have two midwits purple-prosing past each other.

Circumstances change. Shit happens. There is no such thing as “the right way”. Or correct. You pick the lesser of two evils and do your best.

“still believe it’s the correct advice, and I continue to see managers who fail because they are missing this perspective. However, I’ve also seen some of the best leaders that I’ve worked with burn out by following this advice too loyally.”

Then by definition it’s not “correct” because it can fail and fails spectacularly.


That’s cus they don’t trust you. Win their trust!

I don’t like the persuasive education angle. You’re going to come off as smarmy.

So not everything is an opportunity. You gotta remember that things are the way they are cus they got that way.

1) solution may seem stupid bad now, but at the time, it was the lesser of two evils

2) the people most responsible are now your coworkers.

It’s not always a good idea to see everything or comment on everything. Pick your battles.


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