BART from Oakland to SF is OK. BART to Caltrain to Silicon Valley is a proper hassle. The two systems don't line up real well, you're liable to clock 4 hours a day commuting if you go all the way down to Palo Alto. Driving at an off-peak time is strictly better.
Oakland is a big place, and the BART stations are generally either downtown, where the rent is relatively high, in places you don't want to live, or far away from you.
I know people already do this. My intent was to ask why it's not the default for people who would save $1-2k every month. It seems the assumption is working in SF means living in SF for software developers making > $100k/year.
Google Maps gives a < 1 hour each way commute (BART or bike + ferry), which I don't think is horrible. Is Google Maps just super optimistic?