Yep. And if you have kids and disrupt the career you're an argument for why women shouldn't be paid as much or selected for the leadership track and if you don't have kids you'll still be judged as if you could pop one out at any moment (and so be paid less and not selected for the leadership track).

It is kind of odd to work for something for years and then feel like you're pouring gasoline all over it and throwing a match: that's how I feel about my career and its collision-to-come with kids. It sucks. Oh well.