This feels to me a little like, "I'm disappointed that person over there is so great at the piano. They practice 10hrs a day. I don't have time. But, I feel I should be considered just as good as them even though I can't put in the effort they are. I should be paid the same. They give concerts 4 nights a week but I have family obligations and can't do that. Venues should figure out a way to let me do once a month and promoters should figure out a way to make me famous even though my output is much less than that other piano player"
Do I think parents should have secure jobs? Yes.
Do I think people that choose family over job should get all the benefits of someone who chooses job over family? No.
It arguably seems inconceivable for it to be any other way. I wanna be good at math but I don't want spend time doing math. I want to be good at ballet but I don't want to spend time doing ballet. I want to be good at my job but I don't want the spend time doing my job.
I'm not saying anyone should be expected to work extra hours or not get family support. I'm only saying that different people have different priorities. Some it's family. What they get out of that is being good at family. For others it's job, what they get out of that is being good at job. Job often include meeting people at industry events outside of 9-5 M-F hours just like being good at anything requires doing more of it than others.
That seems like bland fact, not a judgement to me. I'm sympathetic that a hard choice has to be made.
Do I think parents should have secure jobs? Yes.
Do I think people that choose family over job should get all the benefits of someone who chooses job over family? No.
It arguably seems inconceivable for it to be any other way. I wanna be good at math but I don't want spend time doing math. I want to be good at ballet but I don't want to spend time doing ballet. I want to be good at my job but I don't want the spend time doing my job.
I'm not saying anyone should be expected to work extra hours or not get family support. I'm only saying that different people have different priorities. Some it's family. What they get out of that is being good at family. For others it's job, what they get out of that is being good at job. Job often include meeting people at industry events outside of 9-5 M-F hours just like being good at anything requires doing more of it than others.
That seems like bland fact, not a judgement to me. I'm sympathetic that a hard choice has to be made.