You need slack in the system for this to happen. If everyone needs to work then the village is empty.

We're also seeing baby boomers, who were raised partially by their grandparents, neglecting the role of grandparent. They live vicariously, through Facebook and video calls, and when the parents ask for them to get more involved, they're met with "I raised you, so I've done my part"

Both my wife and my parents maybe see our kids twice a year, thrice if they have some other reason to come to town. And it's not an issue of health. They all travel regularly, for extended periods.

That's right. Good babysitter is more valuable then grandparents nowadays.

Same story: my mother is not involved into rising kid. But she also often asks when are we planning to have more kids. But I barely manage one child

I'm hoping you mean your wife's parents and not your wife haha. But I’m sorry to hear that… my wife and I got blessed with very involved grandparents.

Yeah haha, wife's parents and my parents

We've got some really good neighbors that have helped out a lot, but it's never quite the same

> baby boomers, neglecting the role of grandparent ...

Two 30ish mums I know act really entitled about the Boomer (61 to 79 years old) grandparents not giving enough support. The mums are both working in full-time jobs, so I understand why they need more help. One is a solo mum (due to bad choice for a father, wasn't a surprise).

Both mums get massive support from the grandparents (some working fulltime themselves), but they complain they just don't get enough support.

The mums compare with the support they received as children from their own grandparents, but often their grandmother was a "housewife" and their grandparents were relatively younger.