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The comment implied that women left engineering because they preferred taking care of children over working as engineers. The context is that they wanted to choose both, but their work didn't allow it. If young children exist and are neglected, then society blames the mother, not the father. A responsible mother has no choice but to choose family over career if she can't choose both. Young humans cannot survive on their own without being cared for by adult humans.


> The comment implied that women left engineering because they preferred taking care of children over working as engineers.

That turns out not to be the case.

1. It wasn't "implied"

There were no implications, things were said straight out.

2. It wasn't "the comment" that didn't imply this

This was a statement by the researchers quoted verbatim.

3. It wasn't "the" reason

As the researchers stated: men and women actually appear to leave engineering at roughly the same rate and endorse the same reasons for leaving

So wanting to take care of children wasn't "the" reasons, and it wasn't even the main reason. It was one where men and women actually diverged, whereas for the most part they gave the same reasons.

4. Non-accomodation was a factor

> The context is that they wanted to choose both, but their work didn't allow it.

That is also not true as written. First, the researchers write "often", which you leave out. Second the researchers write "resistance", you write "didn't allow". Those are not the same thing.

Third, the report clearly states "women wanted to leave the workforce to spend time with family". Wanted. Not "were forced to by societal pressures".

And of course those pressures are identical for men and women, if not stronger for men. When I started working part time in order to have time for my daughter, there was an almost immediate attempt to push me out, stopped only by my team revolting, and it was made clear to me that I would not be advancing, that my career was if not over than at least dead in the water.

And at some level that is actually correct. Once I had my daughter, my job was not just not my #1 priority, I physically did not have the same amount of time to give. This is not some evil discriminatory society, it is physics. The day has so many hours. So companies that often demand total dedication from their employees (especially in the US) simply won't get it from a caregiver.

Now I don't agree that that is a legitimate demand. But it is a common one that is made equally of all employees, non-discriminatorily.

Choosing family over career is a legitimate choice. It happens to be my choice. But it is a choice, and one I personally would make again and again, even though the punishment society doles out to men for that choice is much, much harsher.




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