i'm gonna be a dick; I hate how some of my friends raise their kids and make their kids my problem when they're visiting and they see me as a daycare. Besides being a host I now have to take care of my friends and feeding them alcohol AND at the same time I have to correct their kids to not breakdown my house.
I'll wind down the socials with those parents who are not parenting and cherish the friends more who raise well-behaved children
Yeah you are being a dick. Hope you will also have a little one one day and maybe then you will realise how absurd you having to correct their kids sounds like ;)
He's not a dick, the reality is that both parents and non-parents as friends do not understand that they have to actively give to a friendship. Not break-even, not take, give.
If you're not actively going out of your way for your friends then you're not a good friend. Sorry. I know life is hard right now and blah blah blah and we can do that for a while. But when it becomes an all the time thing, then you're not a good friend.
And having a kid is an all the time thing. So if you let that become an excuse for why you're not going out of your way for your friends, then you're going to lose all your friends. So, don't let that become an excuse.
Everyone expects a very convenient relationship. I come over, dump my kid on you and I just have to worry about me and my kid. Or, the inverse - you come over, your kid is nowhere to be found and I don't have to worry about anything.
Relationships don't work that way. I hold my goddamn coworkers to a higher standard of care. Stick your neck out for your friends. Be uncomfortable. Be tired. At least, sometimes. And just understand that will be repaid.
