how is it anti-social to not to engage with someone whose overly judging you? seems like a pretty universal response. sure everyone has first level impressions, but I’m not going to put my energy into someone who never outgrew the child level thinking of leading head first into surface level impressions
>I’m not going to put my energy into someone who never outgrew the child level thinking of leading head first into surface level impressions
Less opportunities for you because you are (intentionally) ignorant of human nature.
As mentioned, people make split second judgements. It doesnt matter if you are the top 5 smartest people in the world, people do not have the resources to 'vet' everyone. We look at patterns and realize that people with Face tattoos are less likely to be excellent.
This is textbook idealism. That is the way the world Ought to be. That isnt how the world Is. We are shaped by experiences.
There is something a bit reinforcing on this topic. The people deliberately violating social norms claim they 'don't care'. I imagine the smartest people are aware this stuff does matter, so they don't violate social norms.
