Another interpretation might be. I don't know whether to call this class based or what, but I think there's sort of a divide in the world around what people think there role is.
Like I think my role is to be relatively, I dunno, sort of pro-social. "Middle Class" It's not that I don't occasionally find like models and celebrities attractive, and it's not that I don't gaze at women, but like I don't think it's my role to maximally optimize the partner I'm looking for. Partially probably because I'm an awkward weird nerd, but I'm mostly looking to find the person that best complements me, not the person that maximizes my social value.
But like so many people can't seem to imagine that there are people in this world that don't see things in a completely transactional darwinian way, as evidenced by the core narrative the author recites, and I sort of can't see the opposite - why one would put objective value/beauty over subjective happiness.
From the perspective of an 80-year-old who has been through numerous "serious" relationships, and finally found my match at the age of 55, you seem to be unusually mature. Best of luck in your adventures -- and don't be desperate. Even a relationship with a finite lifetime can be incredibly rewarding, you will definitely develop relationship "skills" that will make the next one even better, and when you find someone with as good an attitude as yours, you have a good shot at a lifetime together.
Like I think my role is to be relatively, I dunno, sort of pro-social. "Middle Class" It's not that I don't occasionally find like models and celebrities attractive, and it's not that I don't gaze at women, but like I don't think it's my role to maximally optimize the partner I'm looking for. Partially probably because I'm an awkward weird nerd, but I'm mostly looking to find the person that best complements me, not the person that maximizes my social value.
But like so many people can't seem to imagine that there are people in this world that don't see things in a completely transactional darwinian way, as evidenced by the core narrative the author recites, and I sort of can't see the opposite - why one would put objective value/beauty over subjective happiness.