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With respect, I think this is quite a sad and revealing comment, but your Hollywood definition of a friend fits my friends. I wonder if you maybe never experienced friendship but rather just acquaintances.


The friends who would throw down for you in a fight at age 19

when you reach age 40, will have families to look after and a lot more to lose than they used to have, like a nice house and a good job

or they'll be at the far end of a skype link / international flight

or they'll have discovered a new chill side to themselves now they don't have 19-year-old energy and hormone levels

and you'll realise you don't want your boy to fuck up his custody arrangements by getting sent to jail over some dumb brawl

They'll still support you in the face of life's challenges, but it'll be support of a very different kind.


I’m 40. I didn’t throw down for my friends when I was 19, but I support those same friends through divorces, cancer, deaths now. They’ll do the same for me.

Some friends are closer than family. That’s luck, but also intention.


My best friend asks me what I had for lunch on random days. Sometimes I get drunk and message him how I was reminiscing about the good times together. Things don’t have to be as complex as you think. Just appreciating the simple stuff might go long way.


My best friend asks me what I had for lunch on random days.

Now, that's a Friend.


I figured the "throw down for you in a fight" was hyperbolic.

Obviously I don't want a friend who will literally run the risk of getting sent to jail over some dumb brawl. And I didn't when I was 19 either.




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