I feel false dichotomy here - you assume helping child to go through plateau must be forced.
It doesn’t have to be and some people need a little bit of help - you didn’t and that’s great.
Conversely there will be kids that need to be forced or nothing good will come out of them - there will be kids that should be left alone because pushing them will just break whatever they should be doing.
It is delicate balance and difficult choices - but there is no white and black here that will be right for everyone.
Yeah I didn't mean to suggest this dichotomy. And I agree with you. Just not sure how much you can force people, even the ones who "need" to be forced. Or what "good" will come out of that. Good in my mind is a person who knows themselves, is functional, and is comfortable in their own skin. That is, a person who won't lead a life of total suffering, which seems pretty common!
It doesn’t have to be and some people need a little bit of help - you didn’t and that’s great.
Conversely there will be kids that need to be forced or nothing good will come out of them - there will be kids that should be left alone because pushing them will just break whatever they should be doing.
It is delicate balance and difficult choices - but there is no white and black here that will be right for everyone.