Once it's at this level of prevalence, can it really be considered neurologically atypical?
The broader point that's often missed is that this is a naturally occurring and common phenotype that doesn't gel well with office-work culture and the modern regimented schooling system, forcing people to sit for unnaturally long times focusing on anxiety-inducing problem solving all day. It's not normal, and it's a recipe for burnout, and our only answer, is not to change the system, but to try and medicate it away, with sometimes devastating consequences.
It really depends on the level of impact. Lots of people will have small quirks and uncomfortable isolated events which map onto typical symptoms. On the other hand, there's going to be much fewer with severe enough impact to classify it as an issue in their lives.
The impact can only be measured by how it negatively affects one's living standards or societal participation, both of which can be attended to by society-at-large by making society the problem, not the person. Though it's interesting to see, in the OP, an AI solution to facilitate executive functioning. And perhaps AI will be what liberates many people from the difficult and unnatural requirements that are imposed by modern lifestyles.
Nonetheless, the rest of your post resonates with me and and your points stand on their own :)