I think I know why women assume men can't raise kids. As we all know, at some point the biological alarm clock starts ringing in a majority of women's ears and they want to be a mother. The urge is probably such that they see it as a job that they want to do for themselves, and that a husband taking care of the child is removing them from that which they want to do, similar to a temp being hired to do part of your programming for you. I'm not speaking about all women, of course, just the ones that make comments insinuating fathers are incapable of being a primary caregiver.
I've felt it recently. And I'm not gay, either. Like others have mentioned, it's not a "bio-clock is ticking" deal(I'm 25. And a dude.), but more a desire to help my kids grow and be happy. That's kind of weird because I don't have kids, but whatever.
That said, I'm not married, and startup life doesn't mix well with single parenthood, were I to adopt.
Do you mean you just have a strong feeling like you want to have kids, or like you want to fulfill the role of a mother? I know there's definitely guys who at some point have a strong urge to have kids, but i'm not sure if it's the same.
To have kids. By "fulfill the role of a mother" do you just mean "be the stay at home parent"? If so, then I don't have a particular preference, I'd be happy to but would be fine working as well.
I can't think of a single male friend (of ones I've talked about this sort of thing with) who feels the same way, in terms of they'd hate to go through life without having kids. Plenty who are happy to have kids, or would like to some day, or whatever, but none in quite the same way.
The difference is the "alarm clock" refers to the oft-too-rapidly approaching date of menopause. You on the other hand, as a guy, have no "expiration date".
But does that necessarily mean it's impossible for a guy to have the same reaction to hormones as a woman does, or does it just mean that when he does there's no biological logic to it?
edit: That said, while we may not have menopause, we do still have death in our future, so I guess it would still make biological sense, just as much as deriving pleasure from sex does.
Given that we have less energy as we get older, the risk of birth defects goes up with older fathers and we only live so long I would be surprised if there was an evolutionary advantage to men not feeling an urgent desire to raise children.
