Yes I suspect a lot of the ORM hate comes 1) from people using poorly designed ones or 2) from people working on projects that don't really require the features I mentioned. Like if you are generating reports that just issue a bunch of queries and then dump the results to the screen you probably don't care that much about the lifetime of what you've retrieved. But just because an ORM might not be the right tool for your project doesn't make it a bad tool overall, that would be like saying hammers are bad tools because they can't be used to screw in screws.