What's the alternative? Complain that you never get a match? The recommendation to only contact people you think are a perfect match and then send a customized message doesn't work.
When people match with me, then read my profile, get mad about what's in my profile, send me a message expressing said anger, and then unmatch, it's a big waste of time. And that's actually the best case scenario. Worst case they don't read the profile at all and keep stringing me along.
The first time I joined a dating website I got a like from a person who I would have thought was way out of my league. I was really confused. Am I actually super hot and didn't know?
No. It's that EVERYONE on dating sites is playing this stupid game that wastes women's time. Some people are doing it with spamming likes, other people are doing it with more active gamification and pretending they have beliefs they don't actually hold. This is why most of the women left on dating apps are bots trying to direct you to their onlyfans.
If I didn't know the game men are playing, that first interaction and subsequent interactions on dating websites would have given me an inflated sense of importance, like, damn, maybe I've actually been dating below my league this whole time? I think that's where this article gets the impression that women only like 5% even if all the contenders shown are attractive.
Like seriously, I'm angry enough about this that I want dating apps to have something that's the opposite of a super like, where you can pay them money to penalize people not using the apps in a genuine manner.
