Bolsheviks were absolutely pushing quite radical ideas on sex, rekationships and family in the early 20s e.g. Kollontai with her Glass of water theory.

https://poloniainstitute.net/recommended/the-bolshevik-sexua...

> 1918 Code on Marriage, the Family and Guardianship

> One year after the Bolsheviks took power, they ratified the 1918 Code on Marriage, the Family and Guardianship. The revolutionary jurists, led by Alexander Goikhbarg, adhered to the revolutionary principals of Marx, Engels, and Lenin when drafting the codes. Goikhbarg considered the nuclear family unit to be a necessary but transitive social arrangement that would quickly be phased out by the growing communal resources of the state and would eventually "wither away". The jurists intended for the code to provide a temporary legal framework to maintain protections for women and children until a system of total communal support could be established.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family_in_the_Soviet_Union#:~:....

I hope that you can see this doesn’t say that they tried to abolish family, just weaken it.

Additionally, in the totalitarian phase which started in the late 1920s, family was supported and strengthened:

> the government of the Soviet Union first attempted to weaken the family and then to strengthen it from the 1930s onwards

It’s clear as day isn’t it? Totalitarian regimes can very much be based on family values.

You really want to go to bat for the Soviet Union?

Not really, just the notion that trying to abolish family is somehow the hallmark of totalitarianism doesn’t seem like sound reasoning, and indeed it isn’t confirmed by historical examples.