Well, OK, there are ways for a young tech family to avoid the 2+ hour commute:
- Be extremely well paid, and don't mind buying a $1.5m house that would go for $500K in, say, Pittsburg CA.
- Squeeze into an apartment.
- Buy near one BART station and find a job near another, e.g. if you buy right next to the Pittsburg station and work at Uber HQ it's 1 hour each way. This mostly rules out Apple, Meta, Google, etc.
Another way of course is if your colleagues bought homes at around the time of the market lows, but that was ~15 years ago, so they would not be young families.