As somebody who dreads relationships, commitments and marriages and who is being wooed by somebody with Kim's profile, I find this story double-disturbing.
Criminal angle aside, I wonder what kind of personal fuck-ups end with a partner hating the other so much as to want to kill them, but yet end in a situation where that's preferable to a divorce.
Maybe home loans and living space? Those last two are a serious concern in Sweden, where a well-paid professional often can't afford more than a few square meters of living space.... Joint debts or properties? Kids? Anything else you can think of that it's best to avoid?
Life insurance? Retirement funds? Perhaps she wanted to be able to take their child back to China?
As a more general point I would strongly advise against forming a permanent union with someone you cannot trust implicitly, or who does not share your values and goals. Such relationships are doomed to fail eventually, and the time wasted would be better spent trying to find a better partner. Also, when you do find the better partner, it will be obvious and you will be grateful for it.
In my case, I had some trouble trusting a previous relationship with my finances. I hid the size of my life insurance and retirement plans, didn't want to combine bank accounts, was doubtful that they would take care of my parents if something happened to me, etc. In retrospect there were reasons I didn't feel comfortable, and that was predictive of the outcome of the relationship.
My current partner and spouse is much more obviously trustworthy and has my best interest at heart. I don't feel uncomfortable that my they know everything or could spend all my money, because I know their personality and values and know that they won't. Hell, they even told me to not keep them on life support because they wouldn't want to burden me. (I would anyway as long as there was a chance, because I really value someone like that.)
To summarize, if you think you have to preemptively defend yourself against malicious behavior by your partner, you obviously have the wrong partner. I wish you the best of luck in finding a better one.
> I wonder what kind of personal fuck-ups end with a partner hating the other so much as to want to kill them, but yet end in a situation where that's preferable to a divorce.
> Maybe home loans and living space? Those last two are a serious concern in Sweden, where a well-paid professional often can't afford more than a few square meters of living space.... Joint debts or properties? Kids?
At a guess, that last lies closest to hand. The usual toxic "Gotta stay together for the kids!" mindset, and if that's not possible, culminating in it somehow being "better" (or "more honourable", perhaps?) to be a single widowed mother than a single divorced mother.
Criminal angle aside, I wonder what kind of personal fuck-ups end with a partner hating the other so much as to want to kill them, but yet end in a situation where that's preferable to a divorce.
Maybe home loans and living space? Those last two are a serious concern in Sweden, where a well-paid professional often can't afford more than a few square meters of living space.... Joint debts or properties? Kids? Anything else you can think of that it's best to avoid?