No, the definition of a tensor as a linear map, is the only definition that is useful for doing physics.
All the physical quantities that are defined to be tensors are quantities used to transform either vectors into other vectors or tensors of higher orders into other tensors of higher orders (for instance the transformation between the electric field vector and the electric polarization vector).
Therefore all such physical quantities are used to describe multilinear functions, either in linear anisotropic media, or in non-linear anisotropic media, but in the latter case they are applicable only to relations between small differences, where linear approximations may be used.
The multilinear function is the physical concept that is independent of the coordinate system. The concrete computations with a tensor a.k.a. multilinear function may need the computation of contravariant and/or covariant components in a particular coordinate system and the use of their transformation rules. On the other hand, the abstract formulation of the physical laws does not need such details, but only the high-level definitions using multi-linear functions, and it is independent of any choice for the coordinate system.
There is a unique multilinear function a.k.a. tensor, but it can be expressed by an infinity of different arrays of numbers, corresponding to various combinations of contravariant or covariant components, in various coordinate systems. Their transformation rules can be determined by the condition that they must represent the same function. In the books that do not explain this, the rules appear to be magic and they do not allow an understanding of why the rules are these and not others.
I think the point above is that in physics tensor is usually overloaded, and those practicing physicists when they speak of tensors are more often referring to tensor fields, and most often this is in a context with more geometric structure than is required by a tensor space in reference to a vector vector bundle. Typically they (physicists) are dealing with domains where the tensor space is in reference to the tangent bundle of a smooth manifold, with the prototypical example being the metric tensor(field) of space time in general relativity. Another prominent example may include tensor fields defined in reference to the tangent bundle of a group of gauge transformations, as in quantum electrodynamics, quantum chromodynamics, etc.
Obviously these things are not just useful to physics, but are indispensable, and so I think the assertion that only the definition of tensor that is useful to physics is the definition tensor=multilinear map is somewhat out of step. Perhaps it would be better to assert that the concept of multilinear map is essential to every useful definition of tensors in physics.
> On the other hand, the abstract formulation of the physical laws does not need such details, but only the high-level definitions using multi-linear functions, and it is independent of any choice for the coordinate system.
This is exactly the point. Abstract physical laws must be invariant to coordinate transformation. From a pedagogical point of view, perhaps this is less important when discussing anisotropic media, but critical when discussing general relativity. Hence, the first reason why many physicist book writer think it very important that covariance/contravariance of tensors be central to both their definition and their pedagogy as applied to physics. You have to convince the student that tensors are the right mathematical objects to describe reality because they preserve this invariance.
The second reason is just as important. Physics is nothing without validating abstract physical laws by experiment. And that validation can not be done without computing predictions. Which in turn will require the right coordinate system, which will require covariance/contravariance of tensors. You can't just disregard these computations as unimportant or unnecessary from either a pedagogical point of view or a deeper philosophical one.
All the physical quantities that are defined to be tensors are quantities used to transform either vectors into other vectors or tensors of higher orders into other tensors of higher orders (for instance the transformation between the electric field vector and the electric polarization vector).
Therefore all such physical quantities are used to describe multilinear functions, either in linear anisotropic media, or in non-linear anisotropic media, but in the latter case they are applicable only to relations between small differences, where linear approximations may be used.
The multilinear function is the physical concept that is independent of the coordinate system. The concrete computations with a tensor a.k.a. multilinear function may need the computation of contravariant and/or covariant components in a particular coordinate system and the use of their transformation rules. On the other hand, the abstract formulation of the physical laws does not need such details, but only the high-level definitions using multi-linear functions, and it is independent of any choice for the coordinate system.
There is a unique multilinear function a.k.a. tensor, but it can be expressed by an infinity of different arrays of numbers, corresponding to various combinations of contravariant or covariant components, in various coordinate systems. Their transformation rules can be determined by the condition that they must represent the same function. In the books that do not explain this, the rules appear to be magic and they do not allow an understanding of why the rules are these and not others.