1. My career is no less a Sword of Damocles when I am semi-checked-out and spending more time on domesticity. Getting promoted would, I hope, (a) make me more secure in my current position by tying it to the judgment of the people who promoted me, (b) make me secure in my career more generally by generating a paper trail of high performance in this position, and (c) make me more secure generally by increasing my income and allowing me to save more.
2. My wife encouraged me to do it, and I need to demonstrate commitment to both professional success and The Domestic Project (enabled, as it is, more by our combined incomes than our actual domestic labor) to keep her happy. Possibly to keep her around. It is valuable for our relationship, I think, for her to know what it takes, so that FOMO on lost income does not foster resentment of my complacency in my career
1. My career is no less a Sword of Damocles when I am semi-checked-out and spending more time on domesticity. Getting promoted would, I hope, (a) make me more secure in my current position by tying it to the judgment of the people who promoted me, (b) make me secure in my career more generally by generating a paper trail of high performance in this position, and (c) make me more secure generally by increasing my income and allowing me to save more.
2. My wife encouraged me to do it, and I need to demonstrate commitment to both professional success and The Domestic Project (enabled, as it is, more by our combined incomes than our actual domestic labor) to keep her happy. Possibly to keep her around. It is valuable for our relationship, I think, for her to know what it takes, so that FOMO on lost income does not foster resentment of my complacency in my career