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I'd risk say the dating market is even more broken *because* of tinder.



It just changes the game so that people who learn to play it win even more because most people never bother learning.

For dating (tinder especially), good photos are important. Many people, and men especially, do not have good photos of them. None of my male friends even take photos, and if they do, they are not flattering or of them wearing nice clothes that make them look attractive. Nor would some of them be attractive because they are overweight and not in shape or dress like middle schoolers

And that's just looks.

Interviewing is the same. People who play the game (networking, leetcode, etc) win by getting the high salary jobs, and everyone else has to fight for the scraps


After looking at Tinder both from men's and women's I would say women pit even less effort into photos than men do. But maybe this varies by country. No, I don't want another gym photo of you standing in an awkward pose.

And, yeah, I'd like to think I am at least decent at both games if only because I realize they are games.


To extend the metaphor:

As a job seeker, you need to be in the 90th percentile.

As an employer, you need to be there.




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