99% of people don't care about programming anything, that doesn't make this gatekeeping right.

You aren’t wrong but businesses aren’t in the market to optimize for 1% their customers

It's not optimizing. It's opening. If I buy a $2,000 hardware I should be able to do whatever I want with it.

...buy Android?

I do. But I can also make remarks about other options especially when its a market leader.

Could apply this for anything complex and packaged.

I’m annoyed that I can’t buy particular engines off the shelf and use them in my bespoke approach, why dont car manufacturers give the approach that crate engine providers do?

Then I wish you the best of luck in your fight. In the meantime, don't drag me down or tell me that I'm wrong just because you, personally, don't want something that I want that also doesn't harm you in the slightest.

Yeah, if I have to program my toaster, I’m buying a new toaster.

I write enough code during the day to make me happy. I really don’t want to be thinking about the optimal brownness of my bagel.