People are broken. Perhaps they always were. Perhaps this latest, is the cost of prioritising work over family - it is now common to have both parents working, with child care outsourced to professionals, that may do everything right, but will not love the child. Love is underrated, intangible. I suspect there are very few whole individuals out there at all.
Once the child grows, why would it look to family to help? It has already been institutionalised - it believes that government agencies, psychiatrists etc will help - the 'brokenness' is normal. The grown child won't look to those that would normally step in (family) - they have their own issues. In all honesty, its hard to say whether looking to institutions for help that is a bad decision anyway - how much harm do families cause?
There’s an unspoken burden of past Child Traumatic Stress that, consciously and subconsciously, tints individuals’ resilience and the way the now-adults view the world.
I’ve been fortunate to have a happy, normal childhood. However, based on the number of people that I’ve spoken to, I’m starting to think I am in the minority. Friends have casually talked about facing suicide, complex family dynamics, neglect, and crazy religious experiences in early life like it was nothing, when it was/is a big deal.
It’s devastating to hear, and realize that the “silent majority” are likely maladapted individuals who are not even close to unpacking their traumatic past (i.e. things like “the friendly uncle” and “the cool youth group pastor”) that got swept under the rug or repressed.
Yep. This is exactly how is see it. I don't think people realise the level of love required to grow a human. Whatever is received is that person's normal - what else could it be? But, I don't think all childhoods are equal, despite appearances.
It's worse than that. At the same time families were broken, the children also stopped having freedom to roam around and make friends on their own on the real world.
Well, do you think a teacher can love a class of 20 or 30 kids, like a parent can? I think they might do a professional job, but it would be impossible to give individual attention. And, around here (UK), teachers have a lot of non class time obligations with the result being that they are away and a lot of care is passed to teaching assistants.
A teacher with 20-30 kids under watch cannot give the same level of attention to each child as a parent with 1-3 kids under watch, all else equal, but are attention and love the same thing?
Once the child grows, why would it look to family to help? It has already been institutionalised - it believes that government agencies, psychiatrists etc will help - the 'brokenness' is normal. The grown child won't look to those that would normally step in (family) - they have their own issues. In all honesty, its hard to say whether looking to institutions for help that is a bad decision anyway - how much harm do families cause?