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> Realize that it's a choice to respond to things this way.

It's an easy thing for people to say when they don't really want to help others.



It's also easy to attribute bad motives to someone to try and discredit them without making a substantial point.

What I posted is what I have personally found to be the most useful advice in overcoming self-destructive mental habits.


>> What I posted is what I have personally found to be the most useful advice in overcoming self-destructive mental habits

I'm glad a one-time, one-line quip worked for you, but in my experience, positive mental habits are built over time, through support and continuous practice.


>I'm glad a one-time, one-line quip worked for you

That's making a lot of assumptions about my personal history that you couldn't possibly know anything about.

>but in my experience, positive mental habits are built over time, through support and continuous practice.

I agree, and I don't think anything I said implies otherwise.


I apologize for over-responding, but let me attempt to be more clear:

If you are responding to people's problems with common one-liners, it can be interpreted as belittling someone. It could be interpreted as an attempt to over-simplify or attempt to make them feel they are "inferior" to see and solve their issues, when their issues are to them, much larger than a random one-line quip.


The OP was asking for advice dealing with negative emotions. I gave what I consider to be the best advice for dealing with negative emotions. Just because something is a "one-liner" doesn't mean it isn't also a deep truth about human psychology. If you interpret what I wrote as belittling them or trying to make them feel inferior, all I can say is I disagree with you, because I know what my motives were in responding.




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