That sounds awful, I’m so sorry to hear that and do hope that she can make progress.
If I may, this is a point I’ve been thinking a lot of lately though - as in, is the “oh there’s many people out there who have it way worse, so be thankful for what you have” mindset actually healthy?
Of course there will always be others worse off… and the inverse advice is also widely accepted: “never be the smartest person in the room”, “always look up, not down, to grow”, etc
I’ve been processing this in the context that I’m on the cusp of needing to give up on some life dreams, at least for a long while.
I’m glad to be shut down if this isn’t the right place for this discussion
I’m not going to shut you down. I’m just going to say that when things are truly bad, you need something to cling onto. When hope is crushed, over and over; when the light at the end of the tunnel is in fact an oncoming train that will also kill you if you fail to dodge; when your view on life turns to thoughts like “is it even worth it ?”, in these sorts of situation, realizing that life could in fact be worse, that you have something to be grateful for can be a crucial life-line to someone who thought they had none left.
Is it healthy for a person living under normal circumstance ? Probably not. Is it useful for someone in extremis? From personal anecdote only, I would say so. YMMV.
If I may, this is a point I’ve been thinking a lot of lately though - as in, is the “oh there’s many people out there who have it way worse, so be thankful for what you have” mindset actually healthy?
Of course there will always be others worse off… and the inverse advice is also widely accepted: “never be the smartest person in the room”, “always look up, not down, to grow”, etc
I’ve been processing this in the context that I’m on the cusp of needing to give up on some life dreams, at least for a long while.
I’m glad to be shut down if this isn’t the right place for this discussion