i share your feelings and i'm a happy jetbrains customer (and i dont do java!); but i see the point of people not feeling comfortable using them specially when coming from more pared-down experiences. emacs and neovim are also snappier, vscode is marginally snappier, doesn't bother me but it's noticeable.

JB also has some glaring holes, like the inability of easily specifying an env file to load when running projects from the IDE runner (and the plugin to do this was half broken with the 2023 versions)