Human relationships are like complex systems. And some of the principles of antifragile design can also be applied if we look at it from a systemic lens.
The build up of small cracks over a period of time can lead to any system getting brittle and fragile over a period of time. That said, resolution or letting go are both viable techniques to make it anti-fragile. Sometimes we have to realize, all of us have some shit we come along with and it's never perfectly matched to someone else. And it would be mad if it were too!
Much like you make the best of life and the world around you think of making the best in the relationship by investing into the right things. Sometimes it's ok to let go - at other times it's necessary to draw boundaries and expect resolutions.
To keep a complex system running, we also need to keep working at it.
The build up of small cracks over a period of time can lead to any system getting brittle and fragile over a period of time. That said, resolution or letting go are both viable techniques to make it anti-fragile. Sometimes we have to realize, all of us have some shit we come along with and it's never perfectly matched to someone else. And it would be mad if it were too!
Much like you make the best of life and the world around you think of making the best in the relationship by investing into the right things. Sometimes it's ok to let go - at other times it's necessary to draw boundaries and expect resolutions.
To keep a complex system running, we also need to keep working at it.