> Is it common in western cultures for abusers, who have been abused, to praise and speak highly of their abusers?
Was that the criteria? I assumed we were talking about being beaten by your parents — of which I, non-Asian, know something about. (And parent was beaten by their parent....)
Who was making any arguments against different “root causes”? As far as I can tell, no one was until you chimed in. Are you trying to say that non-Asians suffering emotional and physical abuse is somehow lesser because there are different “root causes”?
I made a comment on the original article pointing out a cultural and historical reason for the generations of cyclical abuse. JK generalized this, which clearly makes a different argument for root cause of abuse.
Is filial piety a part of Western Culture? No, not even close. Honor thy mother and father is not even comparable to the level of filial piety. Poverty, lack of education, substance abuse - that is universal causes for abuse. However, filial piety is another cause and unique to Asian cultures.
Incredible to me how this is lost by so many here.
The article isn’t about filial piety though? It’s about generational abuse, in this case likely caused by filial piety. It almost seems like you’re gatekeeping others who have experienced abuse, downplaying it as somehow lesser than that experienced by Asian children.
Honestly, I really think you misread JKCalhoun, and then responded to that rather than to what JKCalhoun actually said. This happens a lot online, of course - especially on topics about which people are justly sensitive. It's not your fault and it's not unique to you. We all do it. It's inevitable.
What's not inevitable is attacking other people. That's not allowed here. Much better is to keep the possibility of misreadings and misunderstandings in one's attention, and use it as a device to help one remain neutral, or at least respectful, in responding to people.
Was that the criteria? I assumed we were talking about being beaten by your parents — of which I, non-Asian, know something about. (And parent was beaten by their parent....)
(I've never given a shit about internet points.)