I have a genuine Hakko 888, a “T12 clone” and a pinecil. These clones are usually not fake Hakko products but they use the very common T12/T15 tips. I got the T12 clone because I was moving and wanted something that worked on the voltage of my new country (it has a DC power input so it’s easy to change). This clone was like $20 and works just as well if not better than the real Hakko.
But I have yet to set it up in my new place because the $25 pinecil also works just as well and is so small and works on a usb-c power supply which I always have plugged in at my desk anyway.
So really I would just recommend the pinecil as your first iron.
I have both a hakko and a ts-100, and honestly I end up just using the ts-100 most of the time as I can run it off a small battery pack.
Its kinda like having a dyson battery vacuum vs a proper AC one - the AC vacuum has way better suction, but the dyson is so light and convenient to use and good enough for most things.
I’m used to Weller irons, and personally had a hakko 888 but for home use (where I currenrlt don’t have a dedicated electronics bench) I love my pinecil. So convenient to just hook it up to my MacBooks brick.
I use Weller stations at work, and have a Pinecil V2 at home. Have to admit haven't use it so heavily, nor attempted to solder SMTs with it, but it seems good enough for through hole devices.
Metcal (actually OKI) changed my life, and for under $200 all in second-hand with a selection of tips and the option to add another handpiece (dual port power supply).
Stay the hell away from the USB-C ones. They are toys. And yes your friend is right: spend on a Metcal. The PS900 is decent if you don’t want to spend on a higher end iron.
My friend who has soldered professionally swears by metcal.