> For that reason, dance etiquette strongly encourages everyone to dance with many different partners.
There are a couple of cases to watch out for. I was once at a VFW hall for New Year's Eve, which had a dance. Some were "dancers", as in people who go to dance events and follow the above rule. Some were VFW people, who were there for the New Year's Eve, and weren't part of the above dance culture. Husbands danced with wives.
Similarly, I've been at events in New Mexico where when asking older/married Hispanic women, at a club with a local New Mexican band and with New Mexican cultural tradition instead of the above "dancer" tradition, where the husband may need to part of the decision. It was odd, after I got married, to have someone check with me first before asking my wife (it was all visual, and at a distance - we'd known each other for years).
> By the same token, going to a social dance demonstrates a desire to dance socially.
My point is there are different types of social dance cultures. This list seem to be for people going to dance events that are more associated with dance courses. The advice for going to a Latin venue doesn't match my experience dancing salsa or merengue in New Mexico.
> being repeatedly declined can be a signal. In that case, it is a good idea to examine one's dancing and social interactions to see if anything is wrong.
I once went to a salsa club in Stockholm. I got 4 noes in a row, which I made me feel down for about 18 hours. I went back to Gothenburg, where I had been for about 6 months. People there were glad to see me on the dance floor, and said it was big city snobbishness.
> Avoid patterns that your partner cannot do:
Also, avoid patterns you cannot do. I've seen beginner leads who want to do a fancy move but end up twisting their partner's arms uncomfortable ways.
There are a couple of cases to watch out for. I was once at a VFW hall for New Year's Eve, which had a dance. Some were "dancers", as in people who go to dance events and follow the above rule. Some were VFW people, who were there for the New Year's Eve, and weren't part of the above dance culture. Husbands danced with wives.
Similarly, I've been at events in New Mexico where when asking older/married Hispanic women, at a club with a local New Mexican band and with New Mexican cultural tradition instead of the above "dancer" tradition, where the husband may need to part of the decision. It was odd, after I got married, to have someone check with me first before asking my wife (it was all visual, and at a distance - we'd known each other for years).
> By the same token, going to a social dance demonstrates a desire to dance socially.
My point is there are different types of social dance cultures. This list seem to be for people going to dance events that are more associated with dance courses. The advice for going to a Latin venue doesn't match my experience dancing salsa or merengue in New Mexico.
> being repeatedly declined can be a signal. In that case, it is a good idea to examine one's dancing and social interactions to see if anything is wrong.
I once went to a salsa club in Stockholm. I got 4 noes in a row, which I made me feel down for about 18 hours. I went back to Gothenburg, where I had been for about 6 months. People there were glad to see me on the dance floor, and said it was big city snobbishness.
> Avoid patterns that your partner cannot do:
Also, avoid patterns you cannot do. I've seen beginner leads who want to do a fancy move but end up twisting their partner's arms uncomfortable ways.