The movement is a joke. The very idea of "making language inclusive" is so full of hipocracy, contradiction, the desire to control others, there is no "good" version of it. It's possible to treat others with respect naturally without self censoring or censoring others. That's not what these movements are about, they're the opposite of inclusive and respectful, in any form.
This is such a ridiculous strawman. Not a single person in here is arguing that we should be allowed to use that word, and I think as a society we agree that it's 100% not ok to use that word (unless you're black.) It's not even on the list!
What this list does include is the word "user". Are you really suggesting that thinking this list is silly is the same as wanting to use the n word?
In a professional context, using your real name? I never would, in this political climate. I probably never would have anyway, but morality is unimportant in the face of zealousness. I think most people agree that it's a stupid and irrelevant thing to care about, but nobody is going to be the first one to stick their neck out.
You're right, I am a pasty white guy, and I'm also not in the business of telling people what to say or not say. All I know is that there are a couple of magic words I can say that will instantly ruin my life.