Yeah the theoretical situation is "I love X - can I marry him? No. Why not? Because he's already married and the other men will get violent if they don't also get a wife." and that sounds shitty. I don't know how many people experience that in reality.
But that is exactly the current system we have in the US and UK.
He can divorce and marry you, but that "frees up" his ex-wife to appease the roiling crowd of violent men. I'm being facetious, of course, because who thinks about it like that? No one. We just experience a cultural norm where people only marry one other person. And mostly no one complains.
And yet indirectly this norm has a macro statistical effect of keeping the peace.
> But that is exactly the current system we have in the US and UK.
Yeah I know - that's the situation I'm talking about. I know nobody seems to complain in public but I guess there are people out there is applies to. Maybe one day it'll change and people will be free to marry who they want.
> Maybe one day it'll change and people will be free to marry who they want.
People don't complain in private either. I've literally never heard it, even 2nd hand.
You're making it sound like a law against marrying someone of a difference race. It is nothing like that. Most Western women would be appalled at the idea of being someone's 3rd wife.
There is tiny subculture of poly-amorous people. Maybe some of them complain? But they can still be with who they want, just without the official seal.
