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Some people blame victims aa a defense mechanism. It's so they can justify in their head that it can never happen to them because they are smart, and hardworking and deserving and whatever else. It usually takes such tragedy happening to them personally for them to gain empathy. Even then, some of them don't. They only end up having empathy for their own tragedies, other people's tragedy is deserved



I've been laid off before and I've lost jobs for a variety of reasons including the company going under. What I've learnt from it is that you just have to keep moving forwards. If you try to cling to the past or hold on to a mental framework or lifestyle that isn't working it'll just drag you down. I get that people want security but in the end the only real security is that which you provide for yourself, if you put blind faith into systems that you don't have any control over at some point they will fail you, most of the time through no fault of their own and you'll be left to fend for yourself. That's why I always start from that position, I make sure I'm able to protect myself first. Everything else is window dressing.




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