Fantastic comment, totally matches my perspective as a father of three. Not letting your old self go leads to all sorts of problems, severes your relationship with both your child and your spouse, and is a sure way to remain unhappy. I see a lot of this in new parent families around.
Original post mentions staying in touch with other parents who are in the same situation as yourself, and it indeed helps a lot — eventually everyone start chatting about things like children’s sleep problems, chickenpox, school fees, car seat brands, or whatever, which helps normalizing the difficulty you’re going through.
Trying hard to hang out with your old childless friends, on the other hand (if you can afford their schedule), is a road to hell.
Original post mentions staying in touch with other parents who are in the same situation as yourself, and it indeed helps a lot — eventually everyone start chatting about things like children’s sleep problems, chickenpox, school fees, car seat brands, or whatever, which helps normalizing the difficulty you’re going through.
Trying hard to hang out with your old childless friends, on the other hand (if you can afford their schedule), is a road to hell.