I myself understand that and would still want to come, but I don't want to do it at the expense of causing more stress to my family over there. If I insisted on coming to see them now even after my uncle asked me not to, it would be selfish. My grandfather has already been through a ton of stress and illness; I don't want to stress him out about his grandchild possibly getting hurt visiting him on top of everything else. I plan to bring the idea up a bit later, and in the meantime I donate so those would-be living costs should go to the country anyway.