This entire comment is steeped in a deeply bitter tone, which you would do well to disabuse yourself of (it is not endearing and frankly is a little worrying).
> women do not really want the feminine or sensitive men that they claim to want.
You are wrong. Yes, as a partner you're supposed to have drive and groom yourself properly - this is true for everyone. After those basic life requirements, what is important is that you are capable of having a mature relationship with someone else. Part of that is knowing that you should express yourself and how to do it in such a way that it isn't a fight every time.
It's not bitter, it's reality. Dodging inconvenient truths because they make people uncomfortable is exactly the issue I'm trying to describe. The massive divide between what people say they do and what they actually do.
But if you don't believe me, do go ahead and create a fake dating profile. One in which you show economic fragility (which is the point of the OP article) yet that you're very much in touch with your feelings.
Enjoy the crickets. Nobody wants you.
Hence my point: be attractive, economically successful and only then might you also express some feelings. The thing you're missing here is "economically successful". You describe it as a basic life requirement but I made my remark in context of the article, which describes millions of men for which this is out of reach, even if they try. So the "mature relationship" doesn't apply as they won't be in any due to their economic status.
And as this lack of economic success leads to a lack of romantic success, they sink into a depression, start drinking, and then kill themselves. None of which apparently is worrying, instead the worrying part is saying that women select for economic success, as this sounds shallow, bitter or even offensive.
It's not offensive, it makes total sense from both a biological and cultural perspective.
I didn't read it as bitter. I'm a happily married guy with kids, never struggled to date, has high income, etc. Even then, I agree with what he says. That's simply the way the world is. My wife comes from a non-Western culture and fully agrees with "A male without utility is cast aside like trash". The consequences of selecting the wrong husband are dire for a woman.
Thanks. If it has a bitter tone, it would come from my conviction that modern progressive politics are entirely backwards, and therefore regressive. How very typical is it that millions of men have nothing to live for, end up in the gutter, drink and die, and not one prominent feminist cares?
People have become experts in dodging and bending realities they dislike. When it rains outside they deny it, change the subject, or even redefine the meaning of the word rain.
But to me it still just rains. I'm a man and I know what is expected of me: utility. I have to deliver it and there's no safety net. Failing is not an option. It doesn't matter how I feel about it as it doesn't matter how I feel about the rain. Rain doesn't care, and the world doesn't care about men.
> women do not really want the feminine or sensitive men that they claim to want.
You are wrong. Yes, as a partner you're supposed to have drive and groom yourself properly - this is true for everyone. After those basic life requirements, what is important is that you are capable of having a mature relationship with someone else. Part of that is knowing that you should express yourself and how to do it in such a way that it isn't a fight every time.