Lost my mom to cancer back in 2009. She was sick from ~2000 until then.
Some things that help:
If work is demanding, find whatever time you can to communicate with her. Send fun texts. Play a game together online. Whatever. It will help distract both of you. If you can't be with her, call as often as possible and check in to see how she's doing.
Spend time alone to process. Get an AirBnb somewhere remote or take a road trip by yourself. Tell your employer that you need time off and take a zero-f*cks-given attitude about doing it. If they let you go, that's on their soul. Prioritize your sanity and the well-being of your family above everyone and everything else with no remorse. You won't regret it.
Find old photos and if she can, spend time laughing with her and remembering you growing up. I'll always cherish the last Christmas I got to spend with my mom cooking and laughing at how bad I was when I was little.
Don't expect anyone else to "get it" or to care and don't be offended if they misunderstand the situation. Unless they've been through it they have no frame of reference. This helps avoiding the inevitable snap when the psychological pressure becomes too much.
Never hesitate to email if you need to vent/talk: me@ryanglover.net.
Some things that help:
If work is demanding, find whatever time you can to communicate with her. Send fun texts. Play a game together online. Whatever. It will help distract both of you. If you can't be with her, call as often as possible and check in to see how she's doing.
Spend time alone to process. Get an AirBnb somewhere remote or take a road trip by yourself. Tell your employer that you need time off and take a zero-f*cks-given attitude about doing it. If they let you go, that's on their soul. Prioritize your sanity and the well-being of your family above everyone and everything else with no remorse. You won't regret it.
Find old photos and if she can, spend time laughing with her and remembering you growing up. I'll always cherish the last Christmas I got to spend with my mom cooking and laughing at how bad I was when I was little.
Don't expect anyone else to "get it" or to care and don't be offended if they misunderstand the situation. Unless they've been through it they have no frame of reference. This helps avoiding the inevitable snap when the psychological pressure becomes too much.
Never hesitate to email if you need to vent/talk: me@ryanglover.net.