As an introvert who would sometimes rather avoid the toll of socializing, I spent the first four years of my marriage unintentionally neglecting my wife and family because I saw people around me working 12 hour days and weekends to provide. So I did the same. The damage that “bringing home the bacon” mentality had on my ability to turn attention to the relationships I truly cherish is painful.

I’m working past it now and looking for jobs with more PTO and after-hours support strategies that aren’t “quick, let’s call Bob” for every fire. I hope you never hit the point I had to to turn things around. One quote that really turned things around for me goes like this:

> when you die, your coworkers will be upset for a time but your job will soon replace you. But the memory of your loss will be with your family forever.