I strongly disagree with this. If I were donating a large sum to a non-profit that helps poor children, I would absolutely earmark it with a stipulation that it must be used to help poor children who grew up as I did (poor, no opportunities for other aid/scholarships because, well we all know why).
In any nonprofit or mentorship situation, I always make sure to reach the children who grew up like me because they truly have no means of assistance.
Aren't you already choosing to donate to a non-profit that is focused on this mission? If they're mission-focused, they presumably know how to best spend their money to support that mission.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but I wonder if such a donation will be purely to satisfy one's ego. We give donation because we believe in the cause and feel good by donating. When I give donation, I give it unrestricted and sometimes even if it is not tax deductible.
Are they? Or is it sitting there in an account labelled "children named Tom who live in a town of between 10,000 and 11,000 people and got a C in math in 2003"?
In any nonprofit or mentorship situation, I always make sure to reach the children who grew up like me because they truly have no means of assistance.