Very same experience here, except that I ended up with a simple webdav server to share with family and friends. And it was already quite frustrating to realize how few servers are available and how many client applications pretending to support that rather simple protocol were actually not working properly. Tells a lot about how badly selfhosting have fallen out of fashion. I can remember a time when you would get better service when hosting your own file sharing, emails, DNS, VoIP... and plenty of good free software servers for everything to choose from, but it seems not to be the case any more.