That isn't obvious at all. Folks get smitten by people they've barely met. It doesn't take years to be tricked into joining a cult: You can convince folks in a matter of months.
John might be 10 years into your lies, but he also might have caught on. You use different lies with Jane, who might not know better, and she listens wholeheartedly and with good faith.
If John is an adult and Jane isn't, Jane is easier even with the age difference. This is simply because of lack of knowledge and experience.
If one has more access to the outside world than the other, they are less likely to believe your lies.
If John knows you have mental health problems that causes you to lie and Jane doesn't, Jane is easier to lie to.
Maybe John is more suspicious of people and the world. Maybe John just shuts up to appease you, like folks that avoid talking politics with their families simply don't want to deal with things.
Are you someone younger? DO you have authority over them?
There are so many things that affect whether or not you can lie to someone.
John might be 10 years into your lies, but he also might have caught on. You use different lies with Jane, who might not know better, and she listens wholeheartedly and with good faith.
If John is an adult and Jane isn't, Jane is easier even with the age difference. This is simply because of lack of knowledge and experience.
If one has more access to the outside world than the other, they are less likely to believe your lies.
If John knows you have mental health problems that causes you to lie and Jane doesn't, Jane is easier to lie to.
Maybe John is more suspicious of people and the world. Maybe John just shuts up to appease you, like folks that avoid talking politics with their families simply don't want to deal with things.
Are you someone younger? DO you have authority over them?
There are so many things that affect whether or not you can lie to someone.