I'm liking where Malcolm is going. So much of the talk in this thread is defeatist, like if some other guy has you beat in terms of wealth or looks then you have no chance.

But that way of thinking makes it really hard to solve the problem for yourself if that's what you're interested in.

So as I read your note, empowered straight women have some basic standards and they are finding that they have more freedom finally to hold out for those standards.

But these standards are probably not all that difficult for men to attain and so why aren't men talking more about just doing that work?