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Men don't receive a constant barrage of sexual misconduct. Where did you get this idea?

There's countless data and evidence showing instutionalozed sexual discrimination from men against women. If you want an enlighting read as it pertains to tech, read Brotopia. Or read about how Uber only bought leather jackets for it's men SREs and explicitly chose to not buy the same jacket for their women SREs.

Or simply ask any woman about an instance where a man pressured her for some sexual act. Or made them feel unsafe or uncomfortable. Or where a male boss of theirs made sexually discriminatory or otherwise hostile remarks against them in a workplace (dismissing a woman's perspective on a topic definitely counts here).

And really - where is your perspective that "women only want exceedingly wealthy, attractive, muscular men" come from? Listen to straight women when you ask them or read what they wrote on what they want in a romantic partner. I am pretty sure this idea you have isn't actually reflective of what women want, at all. This really reads as what a straight man thinks a woman wants.


Perhaps "constant" wasn't the correct word to use, but there is most certainly a heightened awareness of the possibility of being charged with sexual misconduct among men now a day than there ever has been before. One simply has to be a man with friends to know that, it comes up in conversations all the time.. at least in my groups.

My perspective that "women only want exc..." comes from the notion I have (and share) that the majority of men who are having sex are exceedingly wealthy, attractive and muscular.


> but there is most certainly a heightened awareness of the possibility of being charged with sexual misconduct among men now a day than there ever has been before. One simply has to be a man with friends to know that, it comes up in conversations all the time.. at least in my groups.

This sounds awfully like "men are being _caught_ today." Surely you don't mean that, right?

You said "charged," which invokes the notion of being able to prove sexual misconduct with an abundance of evidence. I really don't see any problems here. Accepting inappropriate sexual behavior (e.g. bad, not funny 'jokes'), makes sexual harassment seem not so extreme, which leads to assault, which leads to a culture that has hypocritical views on rape and women's bodies.

And if you really want to try to contest the extreme consequences of this slipperly slide, I'll direct you to a 1991 (!) ruling in UK (http://www.bailii.org/uk/cases/UKHL/1991/12.html). Since 1736, it was started, under law that “the husband cannot be guilty of a rape committed by himself upon his lawful wife, for by their mutual matrimonial consent and contract the wife hath given up herself in this kind unto her husband which she cannot retract.” It took hundreds of years to recognize, legally, that rape is rape.

That is absolutely insane by any morally consistent standard. It's completely believable in a society that views women's bodies as property of men.


> Or simply ask any woman about an instance where a man pressured her for some sexual act. Or made them feel unsafe or uncomfortable. Or where a male boss of theirs made sexually discriminatory or otherwise hostile remarks against them in a workplace (dismissing a woman's perspective on a topic definitely counts here).

As a male who has been subjected to all of these and more (from both male and female perpetrators), I'll attest that sexual misconduct against towards men really does happen.


I'm sorry to hear about that. I hope you got the support you deserve.


Most women are people just like you, they want a real relationship and want love. I know it's shocking, but they're not all after sleeping with muscular wealthy men any more than you are with sleeping with an 18 year old blonde with huge breasts. Stop being so superficial and start looking at women as real people.


What makes you think I am not interested in sleeping with an 18 year old blonde with huge breasts? That's EXACTLY who I am interested in sleeping with... personally, I am not interested in a relationship at all nor am I attacking women here so I am not sure where you are coming from.


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Maturity has nothing to do with it. There are very few men on this planet who not be interested in sleeping with the women you just described... just like most women wouldn't turn down Brad Pitt.


Nice job dehumanizing anyone who doesn't benefit from the current system. In other news, poor people just need to work harder!


Would it be news to you that most men want to have sex with women they seen as attractive? The characteristics are clear from biological studies - skinny, signs of youth, signs of femininity etc. Blonde hair is a sign of youthfulness that's why men are attracted to women with that hair type.


People give personality a very big factor, sure not all people but most do. Especially women. Then they also care about your education and status, which is at least somewhat up to you and not 100% biologically pre determined. Seems like some guys in this thread don't want to believe its true because it puts the burden on them to grow into something.


Please consider the varied cultural pressures that dissuade women from enjoying the same games that men "slink away" to play.

There is a reason that the social spaces these (presumably) undesirable men inhabit tend to have low numbers of approachable women.




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