thank you for that, the only info. i have is from articles and PR. I love seeing what SpaceX does, and maybe they couldn't do these things otherwise, but stories like yours mean i would likely pass on an opportunity to join the company. It's not for me.
FWIW, a lot of people join SpaceX (and Tesla) for 2-3 years to work on cool stuff, get the experience, vest some options, then move to other aerospace companies with much better work-life balance. It attracts a lot of smart people fresh out of school and people who are passionate about spaceflight, it's just not a place to work if you value time outside of work or a low-stress job.