My boss (effectively) prohibits us from displaying negative emotions towards each other, as he pulls us aside to chide us when we do. I think the intention is to encourage more constructive conversations, but his bar for what he considers inappropriate is so low that it ends up stifling disagreements. We have a tough time making decisions because of it. It's also difficult to tell him about other problems I have, because if I show any annoyance, he'll criticize my tone. He, of course, gets visibly angry with people on our team on a weekly basis. It's driving me nuts to have to walk on eggshells all day.
> his bar for what he considers inappropriate is so low that it ends up stifling disagreements ... because if I show any annoyance, he'll criticize my tone ... It's driving me nuts to have to walk on eggshells all day.
this describes a woman I was seeing
disagree with her, and you're being condescending
agree with her, and you are bringing up something that she considers we had already resolved
bring up a positive aspect or endearing moment, and you are dismissing her
the best part of this is that she would rationalize her conversational superiority with her education in speech pathology!
Wow. It is already a struggle to live through conflicts in an average company. Turning any conflict down early on is insane. Sounds like he is trying to built a brainwashed cult.
