People can't seem to tolerate dissent or contrary opinions worth a damn nowadays; is it possible you're not actually super argumentative after all? I mean far be it from me to encourage someone who's honestly self-examining, to look away from the mirror and blame everybody else in the world... but still. Consider the environment you're working in.
But to the degree it's your fault, and even if it's not, it will help others digest your arguments if you preface/frame them a little bit. "The following is me trying on ideas for size." or "Hey what if..." or making clear it's just your opinion rather than The Truth... "I don't believe in ___ - I'm more of the opinion that ___" Or there's always the standard disclaimer, although I find those kind of ineffective and I'll give you an example: "By this I'm not trying to imply that your very existence is a foul and intolerable travesty that must be eradicated across the land henceforth or anything like that." It's ineffective because despite themselves they won't think "Oh that's good," they'll be more like "HEY he said my existence is a travesty!!!"
Anyway as a final note, some tact & humility is always called-for, since we're all just idiots and precocious apes without the fur. You don't have a direct line to The Truth any more than anybody else.
But to the degree it's your fault, and even if it's not, it will help others digest your arguments if you preface/frame them a little bit. "The following is me trying on ideas for size." or "Hey what if..." or making clear it's just your opinion rather than The Truth... "I don't believe in ___ - I'm more of the opinion that ___" Or there's always the standard disclaimer, although I find those kind of ineffective and I'll give you an example: "By this I'm not trying to imply that your very existence is a foul and intolerable travesty that must be eradicated across the land henceforth or anything like that." It's ineffective because despite themselves they won't think "Oh that's good," they'll be more like "HEY he said my existence is a travesty!!!"
Anyway as a final note, some tact & humility is always called-for, since we're all just idiots and precocious apes without the fur. You don't have a direct line to The Truth any more than anybody else.