Your definition of reality here is unrelated to the OP's point. Quantum mechanics will work the way it does regardless of what your intuition on how it should work thinks.
Also the emergence of an apparently paradox is a great heuristic that raises the question of whether our intuition and understanding is wrong or correct.
It's not a matter of intuition, it's a matter of incompleteness or inconsistence in the theory. There is no theoretrically testable explanation of what happens when states transition in quantum mechanics.
i didn't define reality, although i implied it to be everything, which was a counterpoint to the commenter's implication that quantum mechanics is reality and our intuition is somehow separate from that.
> Quantum mechanics will work the way it does regardless of what your intuition on how it should work thinks.
i didn't say otherwise, although i think what you've stated is debatable.
Also the emergence of an apparently paradox is a great heuristic that raises the question of whether our intuition and understanding is wrong or correct.