Rape is sex without consent. She made it clear that she requires him to wear a condom. Then, the next morning, she is awoken by him penetrating her without a condom, clearly violating the conditions of her consent. That's even ignoring the question if you shouldn't check again for continuing consent when the partner in question is someone you just met.

People denying that such behaviour is rape make me ... sad? It's perfectly fine to stipulate a difference between this and the stereotypical violent assault by a total stranger in the dark, and Swedish law and sentencing practices do indeed take such factors into account. But to apparently consider this perfectly fine seems indefensible.